Kim’s birth of, and Nancy’s adoption of Garrett
The years of getting pregnant and losing my children before they were born was excruciating. There are no words to describe having life inside your body, hosting a precious soul, and then they are gone. The grief and loss brought me down to my knees. Going through infertility treatments is another experience that only can be described as an experiment on your body, mind, soul and life. At the end of the experiments, when all was considered a loss; I went into a place of darkness. My childhood dreams of being a Mom were, in my mind, not going to happen.
In November of 2002, I decided that adoption may be a viable option and began the process. Knowing the road may be as painful and knowing that it would be a long road ahead was scary, but it was worth it. Within two weeks, Kim and Steve, both 18 year old freshmen in college chose us to be the parents of their unborn child. Kim was nearly due and we had to make the decision to agree to the match, even as our paperwork was being processed.
After meeting them both and seeing Kim (and her very pregnant belly) and knowing that I was indeed going to be a mother, felt dreamlike. Every emotion ran through me, joy, fear, excitement, and pure love. On Christmas Day, 2002, Kim was in labor. She asked that I be her birth coach and as she labored, I felt such love for her and for the baby.
On December 26th, 2002, she delivered a perfect, amazing, angelic boy. She asked what his name would be, although she had the right to name him. Garrett, I told her. And it was done. From loss to an amazing little boy; Life!
We have an open adoption and Garrett knows all of his families. He has so many cousins, aunts, and uncles. He has his 1st mother, birthmother, Kim and he has me; Mommy.
Kim and I have such a special bond. We are friends and are also business partners. When I left the hospital with Garrett, I felt such pain for Kim. She gave life to Garrett and gave me the gift of motherhood. We started HeartMommy and also a non-profit for birthmother's to get support after placement of their child for adoption. Kim is bravest person I know. She is the one who had the courage to carry a child, support and take care of him and then made the excruciating decision to allow me to raise him.
Garrett is about to be 8 years old. He is all that there is; the sun and the moon. He has grown into such a caring and loving boy and he is my son.
From loss to life to endless love.
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